I consider myself to be thoughtful in my gift giving.
If I cannot come up with a gift that is a) needed, b) desired or c) thoughtful beyond measure then I will give nothing at all. My thoughts are there, and it IS the thought that counts, right? However, nothing material will come from me unless I find it to be perfect (ask igottab. about her mousse).
I’ve been known to find the perfect gift for someone and hold onto it until there’s a reason to give. However, it’s really hard for me to have something to give and not give it right away or spoil the surprise and tell the recipient what it is.
Wanna walk with me in my mind and figure out WHY I am so particular about this? Come, walk and I’ll explain.
(we’re walking, we’re walking, we’re walking…)
If we are to be friends, or you’re a stranger that wants to give me a gift (which I’m FINE with, really), then the following is VERY IMPORTANT for you to understand.
I do NOT like receiving a gift that isn’t a) needed, b) desired or c) thoughtful beyond measure… but most of all (here’s the clincher) I really don’t like getting something unless it’s EXACTLY what I’ve asked for.
GASP – shock – RUDE! I know.
Yes, I said (typed) it for all to see. I know I’m supposed to be grateful for whatever I am given, but isn’t it easier to be grateful when it’s EXACTLY what I want?
Here’s the thing though… you won’t be penalized for NOT giving me a gift. Your presence is present enough. Really. If it bothers you that you can’t GIVE me anything, then you could DO something for me instead: weed my flower beds, shovel the snow from my walks, take me to lunch (you don’t even have to buy mine), write me a love note (doesn’t need to be romantic to be a love note, silly), send me a text message, plan a get together or come visit (the kids can play downstairs). I don’t need stuff that I don’t need… know what I mean?
When Geo posted her birthday wish list I figured it’s about time I do something thoughtful & keep myself from becoming too self-absorbed (especially in the gift receiving department). She asked for 4×6 pictures of her friends for a “Who loves ya, baby?” album. I take pictures so this request is right up my alley!
I emailed a handful of our bloggy friends with the invitation to come over for a quick mug shot and this is what we got…
Suedonym…
I gotta b…
Formerly Phread…
The Lo Down…
PFlower10…
CJaneRun…
Azucar…
Nitz Would…
Yours truly…
The last four were from other shoots… the first of the last 4 is CJane’s 30th birthday portrait (which reminds me I need to post her cute shoot – I’ll do that this week), the 2nd is Azucar at her baby shower, the 3rd is also from the shower and the last is yours truly using the timer on my point-n-shoot when I was still stuck in Vegas.
Q: What are your thoughts about gift giving/receiving?