Wisdom from inspirational speaker, TIFFANY PETERSON, the other night on Facebook came exactly when I was in need of it.
Like the actual moment in time that I was swimming in negative thoughts about myself (“What is, ‘I feel like garbage,’ Alex”) and realized I needed something beyond myself to make it stop or I would continue to spiral into more dark thoughts. It was deep into the night, I’m without cell service, most everyone I know who I would go to about my feelings were definitely sleeping, and I’m not the kind to reach out and ask for help.
From Tiffany’s Facebook post:
Tonight allow yourself to detach from the outcome.
Earlier today in a mastermind call with my own amazing support, I had an awareness that is soul rich, you know the kind where you feel that total peace come over you? Yes, that kind.
The awareness that I had is that in preparing for many of our goals, we obviously cannot control the outcome.
We can influence the outcome. But we do not control the outcome.
What we can control is how WE SHOW UP.
We can choose how we choose to experience the experience. Yes, experience the experience – isn’t that good?
So here’s my choice: I choose to show up and play full out.
To put my whole heart into it.
To be powerfully present.
And to add value and serve those in front of me.
That is how I choose to experience my experience (upcoming event was the topic today, yet applies to any and all goals and RELATIONSHIPS.)
So detach from the outcome. You don’t control it anyway.
Become present to how you choose to show up.
To experience your experiences.
Your chosen response regardless of how others choose.
This is soul alignment.
Freedom mixed with joy, purpose, and clarity.
Goodnight fellow travelers on the path,
“Your chosen response regardless of how others choose.” That sentence was the clincher for me. No matter what I say or do, I am not in control of the choice others make, even if they effect me. Getting bent out of shape over someone else’s behavior or decision won’t make me feel better or change what they think or did, it only makes me feel worse, times ten.
As my daughter has a moment of pouting when she’s not winning the game we’re playing, I am reminded of this principle. She can pout all she wants; it will do absolutely ZERO good. It will instead be 100% negative on her, not me, so her intent is wasted. (I cross-my-fingers it’s a phase she’ll grow out of sooner than later.)
Hopefully you knew this stuff and have happiness instead of negativity. If not, I wish for you to grasp this ideology with me so we can rise above the things we cannot control and turn the experiences we have into positive vibes.
[high five for positive vibes]